If you've ever experienced the magic of making up then you know it's one of the more uplifting moments one can go through in life.

We're not talking about making up following a simple lover's tiff but the magic of making up from a more serious situation such as a break up. In many cases, it's usually a one way street when couple part company for however long because there is someone who does the ejecting and someone who is spurned.

It's not much fun being the latter especially if they have strong feelings about their and seem helpless in trying to find a reason why they're on the outer.

Have you been in this situation? How did you react? Chances are it was a reaction which reeked of desperation and panic. For anyone currently banished out of a relationship then take heed of those two words...desperation and panic.

The truth is, these emotions will just drive a deeper wedge between you and your ex because people will act in an abnormal manner.

Secret To Getting Your Ex Back

Relationships expert T W Jackson caused a little controversial in The Magic Of Making Up when he suggested a person spurned simply act in the opposite way. That is, just walk away.

In actual fact, because humans generally want what they cannot have, this tactic is considered very effective. The problem is, when someone is fighting all sorts of crazy emotions after being "tossed out of the ball game," tempering those emotions and maintaining composure is as tough as it gets.

If you can contain your emotions and look at the long term picture for even a brief moment then walking away will simply put you on a crescent path where eventually, you'll more than likely end back when you started your long walk to shame.

Instead of calling continuously, sending a million text messages, acting wimpy and needy and harassing your ex's friends and family, simply write a short letter explaining that you agree with the split and you need time to think. You might even mention you'll take a holiday and perhaps take a friend or even go as far as to say you may try dating other people.

What type of reaction will you get? Well, that depends. More than likely some reaction laced with a little hostility but at least you'll know there are still some solid feelings on the part of your ex which should give you plenty of hope for a reconciliation.