It is really disheartening to see how many people out there ask around, "how to gain the life of your dreams" When I come across such a person, the first thought that comes in my mind is that this person indeed deserves what he or she is getting. You would think I should feel pity for someone in a sinking marriage, shouldn't I? But no, it doesn't work that way for me. Let me explain.

When a person is asking others around, "how to start saving your marriage?" and what is the message you are getting? The message that I get, loud and clear, is that this person is not too serious about the marriage in the first place. He or she doesn't know what the partner wants and that is the reason the marriage is floundering. That is the reason why he or she has to ask around for tips on saving his or her own marriage. Is this the way it should be? If the married partners have a strong rapport between them, they will never come at this situation at all. And even if they do so because of some untenable reason, they will rationally find out solutions themselves and not ask others around.

No one can save your marriage except yourself. You are the only person who knows your partner and know what he or she wants. That is the reason why it is only YOU who can take your sinking marital boat and point it home. So, stop asking around.

Instead ask the question to yourself. You will surely come across various ways in which you can resuscitate your marriage. Subconsciously or consciously, you already know what's going wrong. If you don't know, there's absolutely no pity, because a simple straightforward conversation with your partner will tell you what the reason is. So, why don't you take this point seriously and try to remedy the issue?

The suggestions others will give you will be quite general ones. They will be from their own experience or from the experiences of their friends. Worse, they could be suggestions ripped off from the movies. The suggestions may or may not work at saving your marriage. But one thing is sure, if you find out ways and means to save your marriage yourself, you will surely come out a winner. Just give it a try. No one can help you as much as you yourself can.